Around the world Valentine’s Day, couples will be cracking open Champagne, exchanging gifts, and having a little evening “alone time.” But probably not in Japan: A new study has found that almost half of all Japanese couples have a sex-free marriage—which is wreaking havoc on population growth.
The survey interviewed 3,000 people aged between 16 and 49, and received 1,200 responses. Nearly half of married men and women said they didn’t have sex in their marriages, which is an increase of 2.6 per cent after the last 2014 survey.
Is it really true that many Japanese couples are sexless after marriage?
the answer is …
Yes it’s absolutely true, but the truth is many marriages around the world are sexless. A better way to phrase it would be a higher percentage of Japanese marriages are sexless than American marriages.
I think that most people would agree that many marriages are sexless worldwide.
Japan has one of the world’s oldest populations: more than a quarter of people are over 65, and for the last six years, sales of adult diapers have outpaced the number of baby diapers sold in Japan. And not enough Japanese babies are being born. Japan’s population will disappear…😩
It’s considered to be such a big problem in Japan that even the government has intervened by hosting speed-dating events for women and fatherhood workshops where men play with dolls and learn how to care for a baby.
Analysts have identified various reasons for the cultural shift. Working hours in Japan are tough, and employees are encouraged to put in long hours.
Karoshi, or death by overwork, is not uncommon in Japan, leaving few time for home-pleasures.
More than 30 percent of male respondents said they were “too tired” to have sex. Japan is now trying to solve the issue by reducing the working week to a maximum of 60 hours, and companies have been encouraged to give their workers more time for family life after a recent suicide of a 24-year-old worker.
NEARLY HALF OF JAPANESE COUPLES LIVE IN SEXLESS MARRIAGES…
Japan has somehow earned a reputation as a “sexless” country — a place where men and women have lost their libidos. The reasons given are various but mainly have to do with increased introversion and general loss of sociability among young people.
“weird Japan” — they’re strange and harmless.
In addition to sexual lassitude it also focused on feelings about having children from both singles and married people. The number of children people expect to have in the future is less than it was the last time the study was done in 2010.
More to the point, the number of children that people “want” to have is also smaller, which reveals more about the reason why young Japanese don’t aggressively seek sexual partners: lack of money.
“kōsai aite.” It means sexual intercourse, which could cause confusion with regard to the types of “aite” listed for investigation: “fiancee,” “lover” and “friend.” The first two types are normally considered sexual partners, but for men at least the meaning of “female friend” has changed over time.
The real value of the study is in showing the effect of the economy. The numbers of young people dating or getting married increased steadily until 2000, at which point they leveled off. Since the recession of 2008, the numbers have been dropping. When people feel secure, they’re more likely to seek romantic commitments.
Many in Japan have turned to substitutes for real relationships: Virtual manga boyfriends, for instance, are a popular choice for women. Ikemen , which means handsome man in Japanese, is one such game that has been downloaded 15 million times in 5 years.
The increase in sexlessness is not a recent problem. A Japanese psychologist gave one reason why marriages struggle so much in Japan: “ Many men think of their wives as substitute mothers, not as women with emotional and sexual needs.”
I don’t think so though…😟
In a society where 42 percent of men and 44 percent of women are virgins, it seems like there’s a long way to go until Japan’s population issues are resolved.
So I wrote this article about Japanese sexless culture.
Most Westerners are aware of Japan’s declining birthrate, but many are oblivious of another looming national disaster for the Asian powerhouse: sekkusu shinai shokogun, or celibacy syndrome.
Celibacy syndrome is the term invented by Japanese media to describe the national trend of young people retreating from interpersonal relationships and sex.
According to a 2011 survey conducted by the Japanese National Institute of Population and Social Security Research, 61 percent of unmarried men and 49 percent of unmarried women aged 18-34 were not in any kind of romantic relationship at all.
45 percent of women aged 16-24 are not interested in or despise sexual contact with others.
Go for it! Japan☆